I Knew I Was Queer When...

(Somewhat NSFW, maybe?)

This isn’t exactly when I knew I was queer, that came later, but I just remembered that I used to do/think this… When I was a kid, and we were finding out about sex for the first time, and obviously talking about it and imagining it and whatever else, I always imagined a man and a woman having sex, but always from the perspective of a man (I’m a girl) and I always imagined having sex with a woman, and never even guessed that that wasn’t what most young girls think about… I only remembered this the other day, having been out as bi/pan/queer for years. Young me was much more clued in than I knew.

I’m a girl; always aware of my attraction to guys, but idiotically denied my obvious attraction to girls. A while ago I noticed I wanted to kiss one of my girl BFFs. Still denied I was bi. After a long over night rehearsal, I went to debate, hung out with BFF and thought “Yup, I’d date her”. I went home and finally got some sleep, woke the next morning and KNEW I was queer

Anonymous

I think I’ve known I wasn’t straight since I was 11.  I remember looking at women and getting a strange funny feeling in my stomach.  For a while I thought I must be a lesbian.  Then, I realized I also had an attraction to men.  Unlike a lot of people, I discovered my same-sex attraction first.  All of this happened somewhat quietly but I never knew that I wasn’t “normal.”  I thought everyone was attracted to men and women!  So, I don’t know when I first realized I wasn’t straight, it was more like I always knew I was bi and figured out that straight was “normal” later.

I think just after I hit 18 is when I really even began to question it. I had always thought I was straight, and due to a lack of interest in dating, I had never really faced myself with the question. But then I started to develop a crush (and certain other feelings) towards a woman in my life… and I was thrown into the deep end, not really knowing what the heck was going on. Looking back on it, it was pretty hilarious.

It took me a while to come to terms with it and to actually be certain of what I was. I was never homophobic, so I wasn’t horrified by this turn of events. I simply was really confused because it felt as if it came out of nowhere. One day I was straight, and the next I was having the hots for this girl? What?

I started looking back and and tried to remember all the crushes I had had over the years. At first I could only recall having crushes on guys. Pretty bad ones at that. haha But then I also started remembering all those girls I had taken a liking to. And how I often was incredibly shy around them, how they made me go week at the knees, how I had butterflies in my stomach whenever I glanced at them. I know sometimes even exclusively heterosexual and homosexual people develop crushes on people of genders they aren’t normally attracted to, but realising that I had had crushes on women just made feel like something started to click. It felt right, and it felt true.

Over the next year I became more and more confortable with this new side of my identity and it wasn’t long before I came across a definition of bisexuality that simply felt home for me. 

“Bisexuals = people who can ♥ people of same gender as themselves + can ♥ people of different genders/gender presentations from themselves”

And here I am. It’s been nearly two years since I started questioning, and right now I am fully confortable with myself. I have yet to come out to my parents, but all my closest friends know. At uni, I’m more open about it - if someone asks, I answer without making a big deal out of it. I’m fortunate enough to be in a position where it really isn’t.

I’m thinking about coming out to my mom before the end of the summer holidays. Hopefully she’ll respond the way I imagine she will. Very nervous about telling my dad, though, since we don’t have a very healthy relationship.

I knew I was queer when I drew a beard on my face and saw myself for the first time.

Anonymous

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I knew I was queer when I could think of more answers to the question “who’s your girl crush?” than “are there any boys you like?”

I knew I was queer when;

in the first grade, I always thought this girl was pretty and we would hang out and I really felt like I had feelings for her. But  I always thought it was impossible until later on I was more aware of gay love and how it’s okay to be gay. I realized I did actually like her when I started gaining feelings for this other girl in 7th grade. 

Life has changed in wonders from then. People need to realize how it’s okay to be gay.

I really like this girl right now. <3 i hope it works out!

i thought i might be by when i realized that really wanted to have sex with my housemate’s girlfriend (and other girls too). i KNEW i was bi when i had a threesome with my two female friends

Anonymous

I knew I was bi in october when I started really like liking a good friend of mine. She’s straight so I don’t have a chance but I recently told her and she didn’t mind. She just said oh. It’s your life and it’s not my place to judge. Shes really cool. She was the first person I came out to and she’s been a great friend. Not to mention she’s totally beautiful and has a great personality.

Anonymous